Help with Potty Training Autistic Children
An autistic child may not be ready for potty training at the same time expectations as a typically developing child.
Autistic differences can affect different children in different ways, which means there is no one magic formula for supporting an autistic child with potty training. However, it is important to understand the differences and how they may impact toilet training.
Sensory Differences
Autism can affect the way in which a child processes sensory information. They may experience sensory input more intensely than another peer, this is known as hypersensitivity and cause children to become distressed by, or avoidant, of that particular sensory input.
Conversely, children may also have hyposensitivity, which means that they experience sensory input less intensely than a typically developing child. Sometimes this means that a child does not respond to sensory input and sometimes a child will actively seek out the sensory input.
Differences in processing external stimuli can sometimes be obvious, for example a child with noise hypersensitivity may place their hands over their ears in response to noise and a child with olfactory hyposensitivity may like to smell objects and people.
Difficulties with processing internal sensory information, such as hunger or the urge to have a pee may be less obvious. Recognising and understanding internal sensory information is called interoception.
Autistic children can feel the urge to go to the toilet more intensely or less intensely than their peers.
This can also apply to the way they experience the feeling of wet or dirty nappies or underwear. Disliking the feeling of wet underwear can motivate neurotypical children to learn toileting skills, but this can make a hypersensitive child very distressed or not be felt if the child is hyposensitive.
Sitting on a narrow or hard potty or toilet can also feel uncomfortable for some children with sensory issues.
Communication
Autistic children have communication and interaction differences, and this will need to be taking into account when planning toilet training. Differences can affect expressive language (the child’s use of language), and also receptive language (their ability to understand language).
Toilet raining requires you to teach your child what to do and for them to let you know when they need the toilet. If your child has difficulty with using or understanding language, adapted or alternative methods of communication will need to be utilised to support potty training.
Social Understanding
Typically developing children will often begin to move to a quiet area to pee or poo in their nappy, and this is used a sign that the child is ready for toilet training. The behaviour shows that the child has now become aware of their bowel or bladder movements. However, there is an element of social behaviour to this too; the child is seeking privacy or time alone to do what they need to. If your autistic child is not socially aware or appears to be in their own world they may not behave in this way even when they are aware of the need to pee or poo.
Preference for sameness / Difficulty with Changes
Many autistic children prefer familiar routines and sameness. They find changes difficult, and there are a lot of changes involved in toilet training! Some children will find it hard to move from wearing a nappy to pants, and others may take some time to adjust to a toileting routine.
As autistic children feel more comfortable with routine and predictability, it will be important that everyone involved in potty training uses the same approach.
Praise and Rewards
Neurotypical children respond well to social praise and rewards, and you may have been advised to use praise or even a ‘star chart’ to encourage potty training. If your autistic child enjoys being praised and receiving stickers, this can be a great way to help them learn. However, for many autistic children, having an adult talking loudly, making a funny face and waving a sticker around is not a pleasant experience; and may actually deter them from using the toilet or potty.
Example Plan
Below is an example of how you might go about starting toilet training. It is important to remember that all children are different and you know your child best, so always do what you feel is best for them.
Step 1 – Make a plan
Before attempting toilet training think through how you are going to implement the steps below and make a plan of how you will approach toilet training. When you are ready make sure other family members and nursery or school staff are aware. If you have already started toilet training without success, consider taking a break and starting afresh in a few weeks time.
You will need to balance the time taken for your child to learn a new skill and adapt to a new routine with recognising if they are not ready for toileting. We would suggest that you commit to your plan for 10 days and review, if there is no progress you can always try again in a month or two. Children often struggle with inconsistency, so try not to start potty training and then revert to using nappies when out and about during those 10 days.
Step 2 – Select a potty and practice
Before starting toilet training, consider where your child will pee or poo. This is especially important if they are in school or nursery, as the arrangements should be the same in both. If nursery will be using a toilet with a child seat, then using a potty at home will cause confusion.
There are a range of potties and toilet seats available. Try and choose one with smooth, flat edges that will be more comfortable. Built in ‘family’ toilet seats are often more comfortable than the removable ones.
When you have decided and sourced your seat or potty, encourage your child to sit on it a few times a day for a few days, look at a book together whilst they are sitting, or let them sit and watch a tablet for a few minutes.
Step 3 – Prepare your communication and reward
Think about how you can explain what you want your child to do. Visual cue cards are a good way of explaining things to autistic children. Stick the cards in the routine order wherever they will be using the toilet and prepare a card that they can use to tell you they need to go to the toilet.
(you can find examples here)
Start preparing them by showing them how you use the toilet (yes let them look down afterwards!).
You will need to reward your child when they are successful. Decide what you will use as a reward, if your child does not like praise or stickers, think about using a small food reward or time or a favourite toy or even extra TV or tablet time.
Step 4 – Try and find a pattern
For the next few days keep a record of what and when your child eats and drinks. Observe their behaviour and keep checking their nappy, write down the time when they have peed or pooed. You can use this to work out how long after food or drink you should get them to use the potty / toilet.
Potty Training Day 1
When your child is up, fed and settled use your planned method of communication to explain what is expected of them.
Replace their nappy with cotton pants.
Place a clean nappy in the potty or wedge it under the toilet seat.
Encourage your child to sit on the potty for 5 minutes every 30 minutes. Give them an enjoyable activity when they are on there. Use a sand timer or digital count down clock so that they know how long they should stay.
If your child does not like interaction, try being quiet or sitting outside the room.
Reward them for sitting.
If your child pees or poos give them an additional reward.
If they have an accident, try not to show any reaction and quietly clean them up.
Potty Training Day 2
Repeat Day 1
Potty Training Day 3
If you child has sat on the potty / toilet as you have asked for the past 2 days, stop rewarding them for it. Now only reward if they use the potty or toilet.
Potty Training Days 4 -10
If your child has not been successful in peeing and pooing on the toilet / potty, continue as per day 3.
If your child is being successful, lengthen the time between potty visits gradually and offer show them the toilet card, key word or gesture to encourage them to seek out the toilet when they feel the urge to go.
When they begin to do this, or take themselves to the toilet you can stop the regular toilet / potty visits.
Day 10
If your child has not been successful this time, take a break. They are probably not ready, try again in a month or two.
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